Dear Birthmother,

We are Ben & Jim, a married couple in our early thirties. We have long dreamt of becoming first-time dads, and wholeheartedly believe that adoption would be an amazing gift in our lives. 

Thank you so much for taking the time to consider us. We truly admire your strength and courage, and are honored that you are reading more about us. We live just down the street from our extended family in the suburbs of Philadelphia, in a family-oriented neighborhood.  We are especially grateful that both of our employers will allow us to take several months of leave after adopting and will also give us the flexibility to work from home and part-time while raising our child.  Thank you for taking the time to learn about us and our dream of becoming first-time dads through open adoption.

Jim & Ben

Jim & Ben: Our Story & Our Home

We met over 6 years ago and have been by each other's side ever since.  We like to say that there were fireworks the very first time we met...since it was the 4th of July, this actually happened!  We were married last year, celebrating with 200 of our closest family and friends. 

Our home is truly about family.  We live very close to Jim's extended family and visit Ben's family often. We make it a point to eat dinner together every single night, and we also head to Jim's parents' house every sunday afternoon for a weekly family dinner.  We can't wait to host holidays and get togethers in our big family room, and we look forward to making memories in our large attic playroom.  Our home is located in a very family-friendly neighborhood, with a big backyard to play in.  Our home is located in one of the best school districts in the state.

What I love about Ben (as told by Jim)

Ben always has the biggest smile on his face, which is one of the reasons I fell in love with him.  Ben is my best friend I've never imagined being so inseparable from someone.  One of the things I love about Ben is his sense of adventure.  Since I've met Ben, we've gone on numerous road trips, explored national parks and visited over 20 states and 5 countries together.  Each of these trips has been special to us and we can't wait to share this with our son or daughter.

Ben has a passion for learning.  After years of beng an architect, Ben wanted to compliment his skillset by getting a masters degree in business.  Ben is smart, kind, gentle, and full of love.  I've witnessed him for years treat our cat, Marbles, as if she was a little person in our lives already - taking care of her, playing with her, and treating her as one the family.

Ben talks all the time about how he can't wait to bring our son or daughter to sporting practices or sit at the dining room table and do homework with them. I can't wait for the day our family will be complete and Ben can share the love he has shared with me with our child.

What I love about Jim (as told by Ben)

I love how Jim appreciates the little things in life.  Jim loves cooking dinner for us, gardening, attending musicals and plays, and just spending time together.  He makes our house feel like a home, whether it is decorating for Christmas at home, baking cookies, or planning something extra special for a birthday dinner.  He loves hosting friends for a game or movie night or just a quiet night at home.  Jim always makes sure that we never forget important moments, and always makes sure everyone else's needs are taken care of before his own. 

I love how hard working and passionate Jim is.  Jim excelled at academics & has been a mentor at work, volunteering his time to teach new employees and organizing social events.  I don't know anyone who is more of a natural at parenting than Jim.  He talks all the time about how he cannot wait to share his many hobbies with our child, from picking apples in our backyard, to travelling and exploring the world.  Jim has so much love, patience, and kindness that he is waiting to share with our child.

Our Promise for Our Future Family

We are very blessed to work at a very flexible company that provides excellent benefits for parents to raise a child.  We both have the flexibility to be work-from-home dads, with the ability to work part-time during our child's growing years.  In addition we will be able to take nearly the entire first year off of work to raise our newborn full-time.

Our families are so excited for the chance to be first-time grandparents, aunts & uncles.  Our parents have been happily married for 30 years each, and they cannot wait to form that bond with their new grandchild.  Our brothers and sisters are thrilled about the chance to spoil and love their new niece or nephew. Jim is one of 3 and Ben is one of 4, so this new child will be joining a large, loving family.

We will do whatever is needed to ensure that our child is always loved, cared for, supported emotionally and financially, and able to pursue their dreams - no matter what.